Chapter 11
Advanced Genie Strategies
Genie enters the classroom and says, “Another exceptional genie skill is wish evaluation. It is not uncommon for people to get their wish and realize it isn’t really what they imagined. It is disappointing, a bit like opening a Christmas present you wanted, to find out it does not bring you joy. Wishes can go wrong, mostly when you do not admit your deepest longing, which becomes clearer by increasing self-awareness. It may also happen if you do not spend enough time contemplating possible outcomes. This next sophisticated tool of wish evaluation requires a bit of study but will help make you into a professional wish-modifier.”
Genie Lesson # 89
Evaluate Your Wish
When you are trained to be a Genie you have the luxury of adjusting every wish to make it just right. This means you never have to settle. Use this technique after your wish has enough time to manifest if you wish to fine-tune your outcome.
Evaluations provide essential feedback that helps you to improve. When you evaluate, flex your curiosity muscle rather than being defensive. Feedback works best when you greet it with the desire to learn. Also remember perfection is only a myth, so don’t chase it.
But if your wish has not turned out the way you want-
Think of your first wish.
Now ask. Did I get the results I wanted?
If so, what is the outcome and what has changed in my life? If you did get the results you wanted, note that your first wish was well executed and show appreciation, to whom or whatever you believe.
Continue with the beliefs and behaviours you adopted to manifest your wish, as they worked.
If you did not get the outcome desired, ask, “did my wish itself manifest?”
If your wish did not manifest. Ask, why not?
If this is the case, look at your action steps and behaviours, as they may need to be adjusted to help your wish come true. You may also have not given the request enough time. Wishes carry their own rhythm. They manifest at their own pace, and each wish is different.
If your wish did manifest, but you did not get the outcome you wanted, see if these factors played a part.
You may not have had an accurate picture of what you desired, as the outcome.
Maybe the wish you made was off track due to fear of loss or feeling helpless about making the necessary changes if you received the wish.
If so:
Adjust your wish to be more reflective of the outcome you now want.
Adjust your afformations, flower essence blend and actions to accommodate your revised desire, adjust whatever, is necessary to get your wish outcome.
Continue to monitor and fine-tune your wish making-steps and the outcome.
Genie Wish # 90
Learn to See and Read Invisible Contracts
Invisible contracts may be responsible when you act or react in ways that do not serve, you and you are not sure why. Old beliefs are often the culprits. Genies sometimes experience problems with mixed loyalties. This can be due to seeing things from too many points of view. Both dual loyalties and old beliefs cause inner conflict. This can muddle clarity and make behaviors inconsistent. Here is an example of an invisible contract a student is facing.
What’s In This Contract?
A student wishes to break free of an invisible contract that involves being more loyal to others than herself.
First, she must recognize where this pattern originates. When she self-reflected, she found
it is an invisible contract her mother, a very loyal individual, passed onto her. She watched her mother be truer to others than to self.
This pattern did not manifest until the student got married. When she did, she started putting her husband’s needs above her own. She did not agree to do this consciously and does not like the pattern. Because this contract is invisible and related to her family history, it was tricky to identify. Invisible contracts get renewed each time one does what they have always done.
Pay Attention to the 7 Second Gap
The key to changing invisible contracts is to recognize the gap before you renew the contract and to make the change you want right then. You have about 7 seconds to spot the deal. It is a short, but powerful window of opportunity.
When you become aware of your old rote behavioural contracts, you have a choice that briefly shows up each time you respond and repeat the past behaviour. If you can catch this 7-second gap that exists between when the situation emerges, and before you retort, you can change. Initially, it takes a lot of conscious effort as you rewire your brain to respond differently.
Spot that gap and make a change, however awkward, immediately before doing the same old thing again. If you are resistant to changing a contract that doesn’t serve you, ask, “What am I afraid of losing if I make a change?” Our student from the example was afraid of losing her connection to her mother, her husband, (who is used to her supporting his dreams ahead of her own) and her old beliefs.
An Example of Evaluating A Wish Outcome and Encountering an Invisible Contract
To become more conscious of the pattern of loyalty, I had a student sit her old belief in a chair and do the voice dialogue technique with it. She has worked on this issue before and just needed a minor alignment. The new belief she wants to enforce asks her to take action to prove she has loyalty toward herself.
Her adult Self wants her to recognize her authority over her projects and to stop talking about them as if they are meaningless, for at least two months. She realizes dismissing her projects is a way she avoids rejection from others. She says she rejects her projects before someone else does. Hearing this makes her sad, and she responds by imagining that she embraces her projects and reaffirms their worth.
She says there is also a pattern of not wanting to look “accomplished” as she will get singled out and mocked, or people will find fault with her and knock her down a few notches.
The student realizes that one simple reason she does not speak of her projects as meaningful is that if she abandons them, she does not have to continue to be responsible for them.
The evaluation helped my student get closer to her desired outcomes and clear about her sabotage patterns.
After the evaluation she:
- a) shifts her loyalty toward herself by talking lovingly about her projects and acknowledges their worth.
- b) understands she feels vulnerable about others judging or mocking her projects and will continue to monitor this area of her psyche to ensure it does not derail her.